There are many things that I respect about the Danish way of life. I love wearing all black, riding my bike all over the city, and admiring the mix of ancient and modern architecture that makes Copenhagen so unique. There are only two Danish habits that I’ve come across that utterly confuse me. The first is silly, but I just cannot stomach herring. I don’t care if you bake it, pickle it, or cover it in mayonnaise, I learned my lesson last year and I won’t go near that fish again. The second thing is a bit more serious and, in my opinion, more concerning. I cannot fathom what would provoke a parent to leave their child outside without them. Maybe that’s unfair of me, and perhaps it’s a custom that is perfectly reasonable here, but I can’t seem to wrap my mind around it.
When you walk around the city, even if the weather that day is cold and dreary, you will pass multiple strollers outside café windows. Strollers that are not accompanied by any adults. The first time you see one, you may assume that the parents simply carried the child inside without the cumbersome baby carriage. If so, you likely would be incorrect. The child is left outside while their parents grab a bite to eat or a cup of tea or whatever they choose.
I grew up in a very calm, quiet, tiny town in Texas, but even so, I have never seen someone intentionally leave a child alone outside. To be fair, it’s harder to be in a safer society than Denmark, especially as far as child abduction is concerned. From what I’ve read, there have been fewer than five child abduction cases in the last three decades. According to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, nearly eight hundred thousand children are reported missing each year in the United States. This number is skewed because of parent abductions, but child abduction by a stranger is still obviously far more prevalent in the USA than it is in Denmark.
Though it may be safe to leave a child outside a cafe in Denmark, I certainly would not recommend a similar action in the United States. My inability to fully understand the common practice of leaving your child alone with strangers passing by them constantly probably arises because of this extreme difference in the child’s safety.

